Just two days ago, I chatted over lunch with a lovely 21 year old girl. Lily is a university student, working temporarily to earn some pocket money during her semester break. Though it was our first conversation, she was very candid with me. Our chat touched on her teenage years and how she handled her school life. The subject of boy-girl relationships was the core of our conversation.
I think the teenage years are years of
surging hormones, discovery and experimentation. There is a strong need
for acceptance from peers. Everything is new and interesting especially
the opposite sex. During this time, they can be rather short-sighted
and costly mistakes made. While it is natural and healthy to have
an interest in the opposite sex, I know of teenagers who have
had relationships at the expense of their studies. Lily admitted that
she has regrets because she could have done much better in her studies,
had she not been involved with her boyfriend whilst in school.
I think there is somehow this great
divide between most parents and
their children. As a parent, how would you react if your 16 year old
schooling daughter shares that she is thinking of being sexually
intimate with a boy? Or when your 15 year old son tells you he has
met a girl he has romantic feelings for and intends to start a
relationship?
As parents, we have to put our fears aside so that we can participate in our children's lives. It is a journey of discovery and experimentation too, being a parent. There is much to learn.
Hi CF,
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Leah.